Tell your ex husband you dating

If your divorce was finalized within the past six months, wait longer and go slower with introductions, as the children are still grieving, Hartman says.

"Listen to their opinion about your partner, but don't give them the power to influence your decision," she says.

(Life Wire) -- After his 10-year marriage ended in 2004, New Yorker Phil Lee, 42, found himself tagged with the modern-day scarlet letter: "D" -- divorced.

"Kids need to know that you're in charge." However, if your new lover doesn't warm up to your kids after a while, you may have to end the relationship.

"Ultimately, your partner needs to like your kids," says Hartman.

If your partner is angry, apologize and work to win back that trust.

If you have kids Always reveal up front that you have kids.