I’m an optimist, and a Miami lover, so I’d like to end with something that should give you some hope. To get statistical again, Miami is adding jobs in the professional, financial, and business sectors at higher margins than the rest of the country, prompting an influx of new young professionals. One guy, while defending his nearly lifelong Miamian status (he was born elsewhere but moved here as a baby and went to UM), said “Yeah, I never moved away, but I travel! ” No one seems willing to date someone who’s living at home or with abuelita.
Since we’re dealing in fish metaphors here, let’s talk about the behavior of actual fish, specifically pond cichlids, which are “typically monogamous during the mating season.” friend, explains, when there are more males than females, female fish become choosier, but a kind of patriarchy ensues, with the males jealously guarding their females.
No one dreams of meeting ‘The One’ via technology — we want our first meeting to be in person and magical; we want to “to feel his ‘specialness’,” to feel like their meeting is “fated; energetic” (note: this last bit was said by a man).
But if people are not in it just for sex and not for anything “super serious,” are we putting ourselves in gray areas filled with murky relationships between people on different pages and break ups when one person “catches more feelings” than the other?
bad for people to be that rude — in this small pool, many said they expect to run into former dates in a professional context later on.
“Who knows…He might be a good business contact” is something I heard from more than one woman (but interestingly, not from any men). When asked why they date, few people had clear goals such as “I want to get married and have kids within a few years” or “I’m just in it for sex! ” — aka FOMO — seems to be the reason most people date, particularly with the help of online dating.