Now that we’ve established that online dating is a smart and necessary long-term strategy for women over 50, the question becomes, “What can you do better? Are you initiating contact with at least one man a day who states that he’s open to women your age?
” You think you’re doing everything you can possibly do. I don’t know the answer, but most people who say they’ve taken my advice have only taken a few pieces of my advice.
It’s the built-in folly of online sites: you are only defined by your age, in bold type right next to your user name.
I am a youthful, fit and free-spirited woman and to be honest, I’m not ready for the retired 65-70 year old guys.
It’s 7 hours/180 pages of advice that takes you through the entire process of online dating chronologically. All you can do is change your mindset and approach to the dating process and let the chips fall where they may.
I’m betting you can find TWENTY things you can do differently to get different results. And since I’ve helped a LOT of women over 50, I have to believe that all you can do is keep on keeping on, instead of embracing the idea that NO women over the age of 50 find partners online. Great timing for this post as my 54th birthday looms up next month.
And you may be trying your best, but you’re not truly maximizing your potential. Which is like saying you’re going on a diet by cutting out sugar, but continuing to eat large portions of fried foods.
Match is a much more age criteria oriented site than say POF.
More unhappy couples are getting divorced when the kids leave the house. We also know that dating online does not mean that you’re not dating men you meet in real life. If you meet a guy through friends, at the market, at a concert, great.
Having a profile on isn’t going to keep you from doing that.
I assume the reason for this is they can get younger women to respond to them, so why would they go for me when they have a chance with the 45 year-old version of me?
If their first wife was their age, like a college sweetheart or whatever, they probably feel entitled to a newer model, so to speak. It’s frustrating, not to mention depressing and more than a little humiliating.