They should have a burner phone, he says (a disposable phone that can be used for temporary tasks and then discarded).
Potential scammers are also advised to use virtual private networks and proxy services, both of which can help hide the scammer's real IP address and location in case law enforcement get involved.
The millions of answers Ok Cupid users provided to thousands of questions—ranging from family and politics to the importance of daily showers—offered "an awesome data set to dive into," Rudder said.
For instance, by looking at "who's liking who" on Ok Cupid, Rudder said men indicated the women they find most attractive are in their early 20s.
Step two in the dating scam guide deals with "developing a virtual relationship." Scammers are told to ask lots of questions about their targets, paying particular attention to their past relationships.
It's pretty easy to tell: They send the same message over and over, often with the same link.
But there's a type of dating site scam that's far trickier to spot, and the people who operate it claim to be making thousands of dollars every month fooling vulnerable men.
Age "20 to 50, they all want 20- or 21-year-old women.
Guys get older, but they never grow up," Rudder said.