It's not a secret that I'm married, but it's also not something I want to think about right now. But I'm certain our don't-ask-don't-tell rule is what has allowed our marriage to last as long as it has.Notice that I didn't say we're in an open marriage — we're not.He was home every night, did everything around the house, and was 100-percent there for me — but I still felt resentful and like I'd gotten the short end of the stick.A few months after our son was born, I quickly got into a relationship with a former coworker.
But eventually, I realized this dynamic wouldn't change.
It seemed tawdry and gross, and I resented the fact that all my husband had to do was slip off his ring and he'd look single.
Meanwhile, I was huge, hormonal, and knew my husband was cheating on me.
I was pretty sure Dave was sleeping with someone else while I was stuck at home.
Before, I felt we could both have our cake and eat it, too, but the last thing I wanted to do when I was pregnant was seek out an affair.