And naturally this influenced my perspective on dating and sex.
I’ve been friends with a lovely person for the past year, and we starting dating a few weeks back knowing full well that after graduation (my undergrad, his grad) and our subsequent moves to opposite ends of the country, we’d return to being friends.
That doesn’t make you bad or undesirable, it just means that the two of you won’t work as a couple.
You may need to take a little time away from her to feel better; that’s perfectly normal.
I hope you might feel the same way too, and I’d like to take you out on a proper date.
It’s totally cool if you don’t feel the same way; I like being friends with you and that’s not going to change, no matter what.” Then give her some space to think.
You’re half-right and half-wrong with your ideas about The Friend Zone.
It may take her some time to make up her mind, especially if she isn’t 100% sure of how she feels; that’s I get that you may worry that if you ask her out, you’re going to ruin the friendship. But here’s the thing: if you have a solid friendship, it will weather any temporary awkwardness that will arise.
I’ve never really liked a girl in such a strong way, and I’ve never been much of ladies man either.
She tells me everything about her life and I deeply care about her, and even thought I had been enjoying how things were going, I’m afraid I’m starting to get into the “Friend Zone”.
But the cold hard truth of the matter is simple: the people who think of themselves as “stuck” in the Friend Zone are there by choice.
They’ve failed to make their move or they’ve their answer and refuse to move on and find someone else.