For women, typically the caregivers and the one in charge of emotional caretaking as well, it makes sense that many women are often a lot happier after divorce; all that care-taking takes its toll, emotionally and physically.
Since more middle-aged women seek divorce then men, why would they be eager to get back into the same situation?
For instance, sometimes I have to watch boring subtitled movies and sometimes Randy has to watch movies where a lot of shit blows up. But when you find you are compromising yourself to the point where you are no longer recognizable to yourself, then the compromise becomes toxic.
I am far from the best mother in the world, but I love my stepdaughters like they were my own children. I have to think that is better than what my son lived through.
More men aren’t too keen on marrying a woman with kids and creating an instant family.
Why is there so little focus on how men can heal after a divorce?
When dining out, I love eavesdropping on other people's conversations. I knew someone whose husband had left her 15 years earlier, when their children were very small.
The couple in the booth behind us were on either a first date or maybe a second date. Whenever she spoke of her ex, and she did often, she always prefaced her comments with: She never said, "when I got divorced" or "when my marriage ended". I felt sorry for her because the bitterness was so thick you could taste it.
” tweet It’s a valid question, considering that divorced men have twice the risk of suicide than married men.
I’m not sure how many women “go on an emotional journey of self-care after a divorce,” but a period of introspection and yes, self-care is a natural reaction to something as tumultuous as a divorce.