The build-up is rarely racy: one woman cooked me chicken casserole last month before kissing me on the sofa.The next morning, she made tea and I left with a spring in my step.We’d been married two years and her death left a gaping hole in my life.I couldn’t imagine finding anyone to replace her, but I knew she would want me to be happy.
Still trying to find my feet, I was overwhelmed by the feeling of not being as ready to start dating as I had thought and barely said a word.
When Nicole and I divorced, we were teachers living in Taiwan.
I wanted to move back to Britain and we agreed it was best for my son to come with me.
I slept with two women in those early months; both after our first dates. The sense of rejection following such physical intimacy was awful, prompting me to instigate a ‘no sex on the first date’ rule. Last year, I uploaded a better profile picture; women, I learned, like men to look moody. For the past two months, I’ve been seeing a writer four years my senior. I have also written a book, How To Start Dating And Stop Waiting, which is being published on Valentine’s Day.
Steve Gormill, 42, is a divorced health and safety adviser from Glasgow. His marriage of 13 years, to Nicole, 42, a teacher, broke down in 2009. After I’d put my son to bed, a stunning woman with dark hair caught my attention on the dating site.