That being said, the first relationship I pursued was not worth it, because I didn't take the time to think if dating my best friend's ex would ruin our friendship. Inferring, by definition, leaves room for interpretation.
Before you go sticking your tongue in stray orifices (like her face, ya pervert) talk to your friend and tell him how you feel. Even if it may be uncomfortable, make your desires and intentions known. Wait, is it still kosher to use the term "kosher" when not talking about food blessed by a rabbi?!
The best thing is to be honest with yourself regarding the nature of your feelings. " The reason I went after TWO of my BFF's ex-girlfriends is that I really believed I would make a good match with both women.
Having so many shared interests made it seem like we would make a terrific couple.
"The thing to remember is to be open about your feelings", says Dr. "Though you always run the risk of hurting others, no good ever comes from keeping secrets in these types of situations.
It’s also important to remember the evolving power of social norms.
Assess the situation by putting yourself in their shoes and thinking about how you would react if the situation was flipped.
But do you think the idea of my body being metaphorically blown to smithereens stopped me from dating not one, but two (yeah...) of my best friend's ex-girlfriends?
do when pursuing the exes of their best friends, or less-than-best friends, even.
Take solace in the fact that there's no conceivable way it can not be awkward. Though this might not solve everything, it's a good first step." Objectively, it's a weird thing to go after someone who definitely had sex with your best friend. Think of the conversation as a Power Point presentation.
Walk them through your feelings, explain your intentions, and really try to convey that you're not just looking for sex and legitimately can fall in love. tread very, very lightly and acknowledge that what you're doing is a huge social faux pas.