We sent out an anonymous survey to get people's best, most creative first-date questions. Check them out, and if you want, leave a comment with some of your own go-to conversation-starters.If there's one thing that can ruin a first date and ensure a woman's first impression of you is a bad one, it's crappy conversation."It's a sign you'd like to know her beyond surface level, while still giving her the freedom to reveal what she wants to share—and doesn't." This question lets you get a sense of what she feels strongly about and whether she's spirited and heartfelt.It's also the perfect way to gauge whether her level of passion is compatible with yours, Jones says. Each of these explanations reveals something about her character.Plus, they're backed by professionals who know what they're talking about. It promotes a good back-and-forth between the two of you.Meet the experts: Sarah Jones is a relationship expert, and founder and CEO of coaching website Introverted Alpha, and Sameera Sullivan is the CEO of Lasting Connections, an elite matchmaking service. "This is a great ice-breaker because it's a little mischievous and flirtatious," Jones says."This is a great query because a dream job merges meaning, passion, and lifestyle," Jones explains. If things get a bit awkward or serious, divert to a more carefree topic.Everyone loves to laugh, and talking about the things that make you both fall into a fit—cheesy pickup lines, dad jokes, a particular You Tube flick—gets the conversation flowing... Lots of laughter on a first date is a great sign, Jones says.
Better yet: "Many second date ideas can be born from this question." If you want the conversation to become a bit reflective, thoughtful, and meaningful, this is a great fall-back.
Break the ice with a simple, straight-forward question like this. All these alternatives offer "insight into her lifestyle, taste, and knowledge about other cultures." Sullivan says.
"You get a glimpse into her day, her job responsibilities, how she deals with stress, her energy level, tone, and how she spends her time," Jones says. Some say you never truly know someone until you travel with them.
If she'd watch every television series ever created, and you're an active guy who can't stand to be indoors, well, that shows you might not be super compatible.
This question rocks whether you're new to a city or you've lived there for years.