Countless studies have shown that women primarily gain their sense of worth and self-esteem through their interpersonal relationships while men measure their worth based on their ability to have an impact in the world and contribute in a meaningful way.If a man is at work, then that is the sole center of his world and nothing exists outside of that.We get a lot of questions that go something like: “I’m really confused, my boyfriend says he’s crazy about me and I’m the most amazing/wonderful/smart/funny/etc girl he’s ever dated but he always blows me off and he can’t hang out and doesn’t have time to talk on the phone or text back or take me out on dates and I really only see him late at night when he feels like it.” OK, maybe not exactly like that, but close enough.Men intuitively know that words are important to women.Some men exploit this by saying things they don’t really feel or believe in order to get what they want, and other men hold back from expressing how they truly feel, knowing that once the words are out there the dynamic of the relationship will irrevocably be altered.
Women get so tripped up in relationships by honing in on the words while it’s really the actions that say it all.
Hold onto your seats, ladies, this might come as a major shock: men to make you happy. I know it can sometimes feel like he’s intentionally trying to make your life more difficult, and while he may be driving you nuts, deep down all he really wants is to provide for you and give you what you need. Men aren’t women (sorry to throw another shocker at you there! They aren’t able to intuit the nuances and decipher the clues.
If you want him to give you what you want, tell him what it is that you want!
This doesn’t mean you have a great and profound relationship, it doesn’t really mean…anything.
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