This exercise is all about getting a deeper look into what it’s like for women to be out with you so you can learn from their experience.(By doing this you may sometimes learn that the reason the date went poorly had very little to do with you at all!Putting these thoughts on paper does a few things: For one it gets them out of your head so you don’t wind up obsessing about them. By defining exactly what the problems were and what you can do about them you’ll be more likely to get confident in your ability to improve those areas in the future.
A brutal situation you lived through that makes you part of a (very large) club of people who have had similar experiences.It’ll improve your mood and get you to see yourself in a better light, which is going to help you get confidence again.The activities you do don’t even have to be as involved as some of the suggestions mentioned above.Merely spending an afternoon crossing stuff off your “to-do” list (sending those emails you’ve been putting off, clearing out your inbox, etc.) can be a simple yet powerful way to feel productive and accomplished, which is going to help you get confident and feel better about yourself.Once he realized attraction was something he could learn, Brian spent way too much of his free time studying and practicing everything he could find on the subject.