The knowledge of this weighs heavy on me from time to time. I can’t remember the last time we took a long vacation that didn’t have as its core visiting family members.Since we live relatively far from my American family, we alternate vacation years so that we can visit his family one year and mine the next.Two girls, 8 and 5, moving with me to my original country, and daddy is moving to a third country to work.Daddy remains on skype and will come sometimes …poor kids.Not to be nosy but I suspect you were married to an Arab guy. My virgin 20 year old sister married one & he beat her & put her in the hospital! I also taught my son about Japanese history so when someone calls him mixed he will explain what he is mixed with including the different races that The Japanese people of today are mixed with lol ! My son had a good job and married to a wonderful American girl. On another hand, because we live in the U S my son is toltaly one down side, I don’t have a chance to see my family in Thailand more often. International Marriage is a tough one, and I agree with most of your list. Loneliness is the most difficult element in the relationship.
I’m planning to return to the States soon & apply for a fiance or K-1 visa. We don’t look at dogs and say ewww it’s from Germany ! And as my book reads a flower in the city which is about this very same topic . Marriage is for the devoted and strong and the ones who found that special someone to share life with and love no matter the circumstances ! We are still young and we all go to bed saying I love you and I tell my kids the reason why some people are bullies is because they aren’t happy at home ! I too asked God to send someone but he was not from America. Reply Your viewpoint on the international marriages is profoundness.
I happen to have an immigration attorney friend whose been warning me of the high failure rate between Dominican & American marriages. Your kids will be more understanding to others and less racist ! With animals we think owww how cute but with humans we can’t even look each other in the eye if our color/looks are different ! If they were they wouldn’t care about what others are doing specially if they are happy . Don’t worry so much about who you marry but why you are marrying ! I totally trust God’s decision on who He found for me. Yes with the love and respect between both of you is more important. The Asian cultures have more disciplined on the children of learning and to become sussessful. We had a lot deferent appinions but the end of the day we try to take what ever it is right and common sense. International marriage certainly is difficult, as is marriage in general, but it becomes especially difficult when your partner’s theory of integration means “think, eat, breath like you’re one them”. I have learned many things from him, and there are so many things I like/prefer about living here, but I suspect that I have never been able to teach my partner anything; that perhaps there is another way of dealing then the manner derived from his cultural background.
Good luck to everyone with international marriages.
I think apart from all these enlisted problems, it can be really rewarding and interesting – but everyone needs to be veeeery aware of these difficulties before entering.