Now, how to go about this conversation without feeling as exposed and vulnerable as when you dream you show up to work without pants?Here are a few tips:__Be true to yourself.__Forget about him for a second and make sure you know what your needs are (and what it takes to meet them). Up until this point, it was clear that your relationship was just about casual sex.Say, for instance, that you know that continuing to hook up with your guy without a commitment will make you anxious. If this guy can't give you a relationship that makes you feel happy and secure, then you're better off not continuing things. Now you need to make it clear that your feelings have shifted. Just telling him as it is—that you went into this totally attracted to him and you didn't have any expectations.But for the past [amount of time here] you've started to feel more strongly for him and want to know where he stands. After you've let him know how you feel, suggest another time to meet up and chat (ideally, he'll have feelings too and this will be your "first date." Worst case, you can meet casually and have a discussion about moving on and respecting each other's decision—not the end of the world).To him, it can induce his insecurities a little bit.
This is also totally normal and nothing to feel weird about. Accept and embrace it, but know this: For men, sexual desire is the gate to romance.Men love and want sex, but they are not that desperate for it. A good woman, on the other hand, is like a diamond; she's one in a million.It is often said that women are the gatekeepers to sex, while guys are the gatekeepers to commitment. If you think sex is everything that a guy wants, you're wrong.As a result, many women have a love-hate relationship with sex. The sex alone isn't worth it if he doesn't like you all that much, especially if you constantly nag and create drama.