When Whitney was 11, her father took a sabbatical and moved the family to Paris.
‘I was enrolled in a very international school, with the children of diplomats and royalty. ‘It changed my perspective.’When Whitney returned to school in small-town Utah, she suddenly stood out.
‘We have created something I would use.’ Alas, it is too late, as evidenced by the colossal, antique pear-shaped diamond on her ring finger. He is also the son of her former teacher Kelli Herd at Southern Methodist University in Dallas. I never knew she had a son and didn’t meet him until five years later,’ says Whitney. It’s kismet, or something.’ The couple are getting married this September in Positano, Italy.
Whitney met her fiancé, 29-year-old Michael Herd, heir to a Texan oil company, through mutual friends when skiing in Aspen three years ago. Whitney (and her younger sister Danielle) grew up in a small town outside Salt Lake City, Utah, where her father Michael is a property developer and mother Kelly was a housewife.
Pleasant exchanges can quickly turn hostile if a woman doesn’t respond in the desired way, or sexually explicit pictures may arrive out of the blue.
Behaviour like this on Bumble leads to users being banned. ‘We count anything that offends a user as abusive and we strongly encourage women to report it straight to us.‘The men who use Bumble appreciate a confident woman, a woman who has a voice,’ she continues.
And we can change it.’Whitney herself has never used Bumble as a punter.
‘I would have, though, if it had existed earlier,’ she says.
Remove that rejection and replace it with flattery – a woman has messaged them – and it leads, generally, to better behaviour.’What if, I venture, by doing all the running, women are emasculating men, robbing them of their innate hunter-gatherer nature?Whitney began dating Justin Mateen, one of the co-founders.The relationship ended after a year, Whitney has said, and she claims that Justin subsequently became verbally abusive, allegedly calling her a ‘slut’ and a ‘whore’.‘I was mocked by the other kids because I was wearing things that were cool at my school in Paris – tennis shoes and jackets – and doing my hair a certain way,’ she says.‘Three years later, they were wearing the same – that was when I first understood how trends trickle down.’Whitney’s parents separated almost a decade ago (her mother is now in California, while her father remains in Utah) while Whitney was studying for a global studies degree.