Not once did she bother to address me to let me know how our son was doing. Speaking many languages has opened fantastic doors for me in life.This is the type of treatment I get everywhere I go with him. Also, the older I get, the more I understand that I'm not just me, but also my mother, grandmother, etc. If your son wanted to learn geometry but not algebra, would you go along with that?I am afraid he is trying to turn him into something he is not. He only listens to his persian friends but when he broke his leg not one of his friends was there to help him out or see him. Talk to your husband about that and see if you can come to a resolution together.Do any of you have similar problem and what do you recommend. He does have family here but he is not close to them. Perhaps some professional counseling to mediate can help. all the best, Susan Hi L., My best friend in college was the daughter of an American southerner and a Persian woman. The laws in Iran take every right away from you, the mother. Your son would need the summer classes to help him learn the language since he isn't hearing it very often in daily conversation. It is a true story and was made long before we got into political correctness. I do agree though, the Persian culture aside from some of the masculine aggression issues that some men have, has some beautiful things and the food is wonderful, the language is beautiful and family ties are strong.
Another thing, his only blood relative that lives here refused to go to our wedding but my husband did not even care that was an insult to him as well as me. Was he "kicked out" or did his parents provide him with the best possible education they could afford? It really seems like you're frustrated, but there is also a tone of your culture being more "normal" or "easier" than his, and therefore what should dominate in your life. You married a man from another culture which is equally valid and normal. In the same way, he isn't used to yours and his is normal to him. said about not allowing the fundamentalist Muslims to get a hold of your son.When I got pregnant, he had asked to get an abortion because he did not want our son. you HAVE TO concede and be flexible and INCORPORATE that into your daily family routines... and ethnicities, that we all pretty much don't think twice about it anymore... I am fully 100% genetically of one race (not white, but which race is unimportant to the topic) and my husband is a blue-eyed man of European descent. Since my identity is from country x, my parents were immigrants and it was very important to the that just because they changed geographic locations they were not going to lose their identity, I see myself and my children as descendants of that country and culture. I have to remind myself constantly that they are half white.After, our son was born, he went back to Iran and got engaged to another woman. NOR is it a "competition" between which culture/tradition will "win" or be more important. He was raised in one religion and I in a very different one. I have to make sure that I never think anything disparaging toward their other heritage.They probably don't make you feel welcomed, because you are not Persian are American or another culture, and your son is 'mixed.' And you/your son are not solely 'Persian' per say. because, there needs to be a degree of acculturation... Your Husband has a different 'role' in his Culture and then another 'role' in your own family and in the general population culture. I think its a great idea to teach him the languages. I think its understandable that your husband wants him to appreciate his persian background, but I think its equally understandable that he understand his latin roots, as well.So, he is toggling different 'roles.' The 'female' role in Persian culture, is very different from Hispanic or American culture. But he cannot expect you, nor you him, to totally "be" perfect... Your son will act differently in different crowds no matter what ethnicity he is.