Although you might think it’s a great way to get her to open up and that it will give her the impression that you really want to get to know the REAL her (unlike all the other guys), it usually just ends up as an awkward one-way conversation.
Follow their steps, and your next first date will go great! Posturing some “better” version of whom you’d like to present is misleading to your date and sets the wrong tone for future interactions.
Women like to create a sense of mystery, and you should be conveying this yourself, too. When a guy says this to us on a first date, it gives us the impression that he is “testing the waters” because he is unsure if we will agree.
Let the conversation flow, and let her reveal the hidden sides to her personality by gently provoking or challenging her, rather than making huge demands on her. Instead, try and implement what I like to call “future projections”.
Similar to #2, never discuss any subject matter on a ‘first date’ that is not relevant to helping you determine if the woman you are on the date with is ‘long-term girlfriend material.’ Alan Roger Currie is a professional dating coach and author of ‘Mode One: Let the Women Know What You’re REALLY Thinking’ and ‘Oooooh . For more information, visit Currie’s page or his website, Instead of just asking what someone does for a living or what their favorite film is, finding out why they do what they do or why they like that film will get them to reveal more about their personality and create a deeper connection.
Go to your date armed with some fun conversation ice-breakers and stories about yourself to share too. And remember to really listen to what your date is telling you about themselves.