Insisting that a man date you exclusively while he’s dating you sends him the signal that you are special, that you deserve love and care and respect. In my many years of matchmaking I’ve found that the one thing that’s gotten even the most confirmed bachelors off the fence and into marriage are women with inner self-confidence – no matter how quiet or soft they are – that insist on being treated the way they would treat their partner – with exclusive attention. Ziva Kramer, MA has been an international matchmaker, dating coach and spiritual advisor for professional singles for many years.
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At worst, you are setting yourself up for heartbreak, getting attached to a person who refuses to focus on you. While he’s out with you having coffee, his mind could be on the dinner he had with her last night. I know many people think, It’s okay if he’s dating others besides me.Perhaps, in the end you didn’t either, so no harm, right? If you had dated exclusively, both of you would have come to this place sooner and not wasted precious time.Worse, if in fact you did fall for him, then you’re left heartbroken and empty.It’s rare that I have a night to myself, and there have been too many times where I’ve had to turn down invitations from my friends because I already had date plans that night. If dating no longer feels fun to you, and it begins to feel like , that’s probably a sign that you should slow down.Your friends, family, and your sanity will thank you for it. Why not check out another post by Stephanie about 5 Struggles Only Single People Will Understand, or visit her food blog at Off The Eaten Path STL. ) Stephanie is a Product Quality Manager and part-time food blogger from St. When she's not working, blogging, or stuffing her face with food, she enjoys running, yoga, and high-fiving her cat.