Oh how different things might have been if I’d known then what I know now… You flirt, perhaps touch each other a little, (or, in my case, he brushed my leg with his foot under the table once, I blush thinking he’s outrageously flirting with me only for him then to apologise for accidentally kicking me.) Anyway, the chemistry is going wild yet he hasn’t made the move and kissed you.
I certainly learnt the hard way what you must never say to a French man if you wish to declare your feelings (en francais, parce que c’est plus romantique comme ça…) So, you’re dating. I was once in this position with a man I had feelings for, I was cautiously optimistic that he felt the same way but neither of us was brave enough to admit our feelings.
It always came down to playing it cool and not giving too much away.
When dating the French, however, it is completely normal for the woman to tell the man when she wants to see him again.
After many dates turning sour or crushes who disappear seamlessly into thin air, I’ve been educated on what to expect when you’re dating native French men. I’d spent my whole life believing it was the man’s decision to say where we should go, what we should do.
I’ve been left speechless when I’ve been asked before several of my dates, ‘So, what would you like to do?
I suggest leaving the grand declaration of ‘Je t’aime’ for the man.
I’d previously been used to a world where if you appeared ‘too keen’, you might lose the guy prematurely.
But, when you say it ‘en français’, it doesn’t quite translate as you’d like it to.
In other words, if you tell him ‘Je t’aime bien,’ your love interest isn’t likely to be making your relationship ‘Facebook official’ anytime soon.
If the sun is shining, tell him you’d love to take a walk along the Seine.
Once he gets to know you better though, make sure you’re not doing all the deciding work.