Given that constraint, I believe that I am firmly in both the majority and the minority of that equation. I met one guy who wanted to exchange photos – of unmentionable body parts. Then, a few days later, as he is offering to give up his idyllic existence in another state about 800 miles distant from me and move to be with me, I discovered that he had an alternate profile on the same dating site, just a different name and persona.
The first iteration of him was the preppy, family oriented guy, complete with fetching photo in front of the decorated Christmas tree.
Then he slowly disappears from the relationship—he fades away like fog lifting.
Maybe you’ve had several great dates, and perhaps you’ve had sex.
The slow fader isn’t trying to be an insensitive jerk; he’s just immature and can’t rip off the band-aid and tell you what’s going on.
Here’s the difference between a man and a boy: a man will tell you up front he doesn’t want a relationship as soon as he realizes it, while a boy will do the slow fade.
He feels guilty about wanting to end it but also wanting to have sex with you, so he slowly pulls away. And while it’s painful to experience, and it’s not your fault, a slow fade in the early stages is much better than any kind of fade later on. Be glad you know now that he’s not a guy you want to be with; he’s a coward.
Here’s what happened: he was seeing you for a number of weeks and the chemistry was intense, like a rocket ship taking off.Then the chemistry faded, and he realized he didn’t want to continue the relationship…but he’s not sure he wants to give up the sex just yet.A guy who does that to you is someone you don’t want to be with anyway.This is all the more reason to date passionately detached.