She seems to be clueless in situations where her charisma doesn’t work as expected.
‘I fell in love with one Japanese boy in my research team.
Many people provided counter-examples in the comments.
My personal experience also tells me that dating in Japan is completely feasible and a lot of my friends seem to be doing OK with dating here.
A guy says that it’s very hard for him to have good relationships with Japanese women.
‘My biggest problem is that most girls my age (~25) are very childish’, he points out.
I’m not saying he should adapt himself completely; it’s ultimately his choice.
I am less judgemental now because I realise that I might simply have had a differently way of measuring maturity. Isabel, a German girl who has been living in Japan for about half a year, is a good example.In particular, non-Japanese guys tend to disagree because they don’t think it’s easy to date Japanese girls. Overall, does it mean that it’s hard to date Japanese people regardless of your gender? If you are in a foreign country with a completely different culture, it is logical that you might have a hard time dating.Dating often involves a lot of hidden rules and non-verbal cues.He might be judging Japanese women based on his cultural values without taking into account the Japanese context.Since he didn’t specify what made him think that girls of his age were childish I can only speculate, but if he doesn’t make effort to unlearn his cultural values and learn new sets of values, he is likely to continue having difficulty.