What I mean is that I like them right where they are…I know she’s not interested in hooking up with other guys, we see each other regularly enough (one a week or so) and when we’re together it’s nice, but there’s no feeling of exclusivity or dependency. The girl starts becoming attached to me, missing me and wanting to become more “official”.While a girl could get me to put in more effort by withdrawing a bit, I am ultimately not looking for a relationship and my effort is only going to go so far. I’ve been successfully manipulated into relationships too.In the end, they’ve failed because I knew in my mind, heart and gut that it wasn’t what I wanted and as much as I tried to numb myself into wanting the relationship, I couldn’t kid myself.I met this wonderful lady recently and she is 8 years older than me. We seem to be compatible and get along pretty well. As soon as she starts to age he will get another 21 year old to drill. Obviously the guy has game picking up a 21 year old at 30When i was 25 I dated a 18 yr old, who was a HS senior.Her opinion was that the guys in her age rage were idiots.
Attempting to mold a man/relationship into being the relationship you want is a losing battle – progress is an illusion if you want something that he ultimately does not. Give him space to step up and be that man without manipulating, prodding, hinting, guilting or nagging him to be that man. No good relationship was ever built on the grounds of manipulation. But ultimately you won’t get the relationship you want unless you’re willing to pull the plug on a relationship that isn’t what you want.How long are you willing to wait before you cut bait and move on? I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men.He was more exciting to be with than any of the 20-something guys I knew.And before I even knew what a great screw he was, I was already smitten with his wit and the way he filled out a pair of pants. Should I really have let 15 years come between me and happiness, just so I could avoid judgment from girls like Sue?