Speaking with many other women and men Julia quickly discovered that although often only discussed behind closed doors, many people were attracted to and intrigued by age-gap relationships.
The decision was simple: Julia turned her focus to creating her very own toyboy and cougar dating site to do just that.
“Everybody thought this was a little phase, that I was just having a crisis.” But friends and family came around to accepting the couple after they’d been dating for a year and it became clear that Sutherland had serious intentions.
In April 2010, they had an intimate beachside wedding in Hawaii, and they now have a 6-year-old son, Marek.
“She’s just a unique woman, and there’s nobody like her,” Angal says.
Siegner says they bring out the best in each other.
“I love that she loves me so much, and that I mean a lot to her,” says Sutherland.
And unlike his previous flings, Siegner wanted a serious relationship and was straightforward about her desires.
When it came to finding love in New York, Amber Soletti, a 42-year-old who lives in the West Village, had no luck dating older guys or men her own age.
While they were “well-established and articulate,” she wasn’t physically attracted to them and found they had too many issues.
“You’re less likely to date a younger guy who’s been divorced, has children or has sexual performance issues.” In 2011, she met Juan Cabrera, now 34, at one of her mixers and soon fell in love. “Millennial men are career-focused and want to travel with successful women and conquer the world together,” says Soletti, who notes she’s seen an uptick in established women signing up specifically to meet younger bucks at her speed-dating events.
Such May-December couplings are no longer seen as relationship outliers — or indicative of deep-seated mommy issues.