But there’s nothing we can really do other than keep studying and keep trying.
So for that part, a significant amount of patience might be necessary.” “Another difference I noticed has to do with taking care of the household.
We only spoke in Japanese with each other for a short time before he started to learn English, so he could communicate with me better.
We eventually stopped speaking Japanese and now I’m actually unable to speak Japanese in front of him (shy, embarrassed … I actually forget that he’s Japanese and that he can speak Japanese.” After we got married we had some trouble with things like housework and money, but I’m not sure if that’s just him, a Japanese trait, or normal married life.
Although I’ve been in Japan for 6 years now, I totally lack that kind of experience.
Instead I asked friends and fellow bloggers, who have had Japanese boyfriends or are even married to a Japanese man, to share their personal experience with us.
” “If you can both speak the other person’s language, there are probably going to be disagreements about what language to speak.
My husband and I have a system where we swap languages every day – so today is an English day, and tomorrow is Japanese.
“There are a lot of stereotypes and some girls use them for their own personal gain.
As long as you’re both honest and open about things, and actually communicate properly with each other, it should be okay!
” “Even if you are shy, if you like someone you should be proactive about it.
My first Japanese boyfriend would go for weeks without contacting me because he was working late every day.
Also, a general lack of e-mailing, phone calls etc. Although I don’t think that this just applies to Japanese men!