“It is crucial to also realize that gender and sexual orientation are two separate concepts that intersect,” Smith says. Going into your relationship, make sure you throw all preconceived notions of what it means to be bisexual out the window.Your guy might define it differently than you, and you don’t want your own biases to hinder what he’s trying to tell you.Straight women like Amanda*, 27, said she would never date a bisexual man, a decision she chalked up to her "old-fashioned" Southern roots."I have neither dated a bisexual man nor would I be interested in the idea," Amanda told . If a man can't commit to a sexuality based on gender roles, how can I expect him to commit to me?
That said, people are starting to talk more openly about bisexual stigma, as well as bisexuality in general.
“My first boyfriend who was bisexual told me that he had dated more women than men, and that was important to him when defining his sexuality,” she says.
“In contrast, my second bisexual boyfriend was attracted to both guys and girls equally, and he thought that was an important part of being bisexual.” Smith also reminds collegiettes that being bisexual says nothing about a person’s promiscuity.
"I could tell them I'm attracted to them until I'm blue in the face and they still won't believe me.
I'm talking people I've had sex with and shown romantic interest in still thinking that I'm not really bisexual but that I'm really straight or gay."Indeed, some gay men worry bisexual men will leave them for a woman, while some straight women worry they will be left for a gay man.