You talk regularly, go on fun dates, it seems to be going really well. Meanwhile, in boy land, he’s been really slammed at work and has barely had a minute to come up for air.
But then you don’t hear from him for a day or two and immediately hit the panic button. In his mind, the relationship is going great, he’s happy to have met a great girl like you and he can’t wait to finish this big project so he can see you again. You’re relieved, but at the same time, you are so in it now.
The problem is our minds trick us into believing there is some sort of payoff to this type of thinking.
Like it will somehow lead us to a place of confidence and clarity. It will lead you in the opposite direction, rather, and cause you to feel even more uncertain and insecure.
For example, if you started seeing a guy and don’t hear from him for a day or two, say, “I will not panic about this right now.It is not there to make you feel good about life and about yourself.This isn’t to say a relationship can’t do these things, it’s just that these aren’t the elements upon which a healthy relationship is built. A relationship is an experience to be had and shared.Sa VE instructs colleges and universities to provide education for students and employees addressing the issues of domestic violence, dating violence, sexual assault and stalking.In my article on why guys suddenly lose interest, I discussed how caring too much or stressing over your relationship can irreparably damage it. When you eliminate the care (or worry or stress or whatever you want to call it), you are free to really be in the relationship. Realize stressing gets you nowhere First, you need to realize that getting all wound up over the state of your relationship serves no purpose, ever.