As the only straight woman within reach, I soon became the de facto dating consultant for my male friends, despite my waning expertise.
They were even more eager to pick my brain on all things female when I started working as an engineer and data scientist at Ok Cupid, where I analyzed data from millions of daters to get a sense of the “correct” way to date for men, women, and everyone in between.
It appears this age gap is largely driven by dudes.
Men start 80% of conversations on Ok Cupid, and they tend to message younger women.
So that’s what this column, Undressed, is about: gender, social norms, dating rules — and what happens when we break them.I asked my friend Trevor, a 28-year-old mathematician, what he made of it.“Well to be honest,” said Trevor, “I usually go for older women.When I was a junior in college, a woman called “The Princeton Mom” wrote into our school newspaper telling undergraduate women to “Find a husband on campus before you graduate.”“Forget about having it all, or not having it all, leaning in or leaning out,” she said.We had more important things to worry about, like the alarming decay rate of our attractiveness.